Relationship Works!
- MARYANN ALLEN
- Mar 15, 2021
- 3 min read
Does it really works? which ones? How?
Connection is a need every human has regardless of who or what it's with. Because we desire connection and can not live a complete life without it, we are constantly searching and creating connections. We create connections with people, places, things, and ideas. This innate desire is so strong that we do not take the time to create and develop healthy connections/relationships.
Well, let's just say, many of us do not know the difference. Unfortunately women are highly vulnerable when it comes to creating toxic connections. This year our goal is to focus on building healthy relationships that benefit us and the people around us, and to begin that, it has to begin with you.
March Relationship Goal - Love Thyself
It's impossible to love others if you don't love yourself. In fact your true hidden thoughts and attitude toward yourself is what you project on others. For example, envy and jealousy does not arise in you because someone else is just that good, it develops because you think you're not as good, or you can not do what they're doing. Your negative attitude towards that person then becomes more about your limitations than their success.
To love thyself is to know thyself! Below are ways you can build a healthy relationship with yourself and begin to practice self-love.
Know your past or family history - who are you? many of the anger and self-pity we develop comes from lack of knowledge of our family's origin, resilience, talents, weaknesses etc., knowing that will change how you see yourself.
Forgive your mistakes- We mostly look down on ourselves because we do not think we deserve to be valued due to mistakes we've made in the past. That's self-hate #toxic. Yes you made bad decisions, what are you going to do differently to make it better?
Understand your strengths and weaknesses - Write them down. What are things you're good at, you love to do, you may have difficulties doing, or you just do not have the ability to do? Understanding your strengths will boost your confidence in those areas, understanding your weaknesses makes you intentional in growing. They're both important.
Appreciate your strengths and weaknesses - know that everyone has a strength and weakness and we are all here to complement each other's strengths and weaknesses. Know that someone needs your strength even when you think they aren't good enough.
Know your worth- ask yourself what are you worth with just your strengths? Can you change someone's life with those skills, can you make an impact? can you teach someone who may want to use those skills? If you don't think so then read number six.
Add value to yourself - we add value by increasing our knowledge in areas we see that need improvements. Your inadequacy is due to lack of knowledge and action. Get knowledge and act! For example, if you think public speaking is not your strength, you buy books, watch trainings on public speaking and then practice it. Once you have learned that skill, you have added value to yourself and your sense of self-worth and confidence will increase. Remember people only pay top dollars for branded things.
Raise your standards - treat yourself how you want others to treat you. If you do not want others to disrespect you, show respect to yourself. If you want others to value your opinion, begin to value your own opinions, if you want others to value you, know your worth and value yourself. Once your standard is raised people will have to go up there to meet you there. Do not come down to where they are.
You were probably expecting me to say, get your hair done, date yourself, or buy whatever you want. Those would be self-care not self-love. With self-love, caring for yourself becomes easy and that's were most of us get it wrong. We practice self-care to cover the pain, hate, and inadequacies we have. This month be intentional in following the above steps and see a change in the way you love and value yourself.
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